Ask Dr. NerdLove

Why We Read Ask Dr. NerdLove

Matt: As a longtime nerd / man / reader of Kotaku, Ask Dr. NerdLove has long been on my radar, years and years before my obsession with the medium really took flight. That may in fact be part of what makes O'Malley such a rare gem and an irreplaceable fixture in the advice genre; he's been serving a market of readers and listeners who—demographically speaking—are often the source of letter writers' woes rather than the ones asking the questions and typically seek out advice columns in much smaller numbers than their AFAB counterparts. In spite of (or perhaps because of) that, O'Malley navigates questions From the Other Side with a determined empathy to often express, in effect, "As a man, I used to believe this very shitty thing, too, so I get it—but cut it out." That's the flip side of O'Malley's advice: some question askers require very tough love, and Ask Dr. NerdLove is a masterful dispenser of tough-but-vital pills to swallow. The cherry on top of this pill cocktail is that O'Malley goes the extra mile with occasional deep dive "post mortems" featuring a kind of real-time reaction approach to some of the more over-the-top scenarios. See this instant-classic, for example: "Post Mortem: Why Do Women Have All The Advantages In Dating?"